Starting January 16, I’ve been on paternity leave from TiVo. I’ll be Mr. Mom aka the househusband (as friends have so hilariously entitled me) until the day after Valentine’s day (which is also Kimi’s birthday and the second anniversary of our engagement).
Kimi took her maternity leave starting September 1 (which turned out to be two weeks before Sammy was born instead of the month we expected) and she returned to work the same day I started my paternity leave.
The paternity leave is paid, thanks to the Paid Family Leave Act (PDF description of the law), so I’m not using up my vacation. Which is nice.
So as I write this, I’m mid-way through the second week of being Sammy’s full-time caretaker. I tell people when they ask that it’s the hardest job I’ve ever had. Here’s a snippet of some notes I was taking from the first evening and second day:
11:47 PM 1/16/2006
Shrieking and fussiness, wouldn’t nurse, later wouldn’t take bottle, finally wore himself out and went to sleep around 12:30 with pacifier
3:21 AM 1/17/2006
Woke with wet diaper, didn’t seem hungry, I put him in bouncy chair, was cooing and chatty and a little fussy. Pacifier at 3:29 and that didn’t work; Kimi fed him for a long time and I put him down a bit after 4.
Various waking up times after that; he slept with mommy for a while around 5.
Woke up for good at 8:17
We read the baby book, bounced.
Wet diaper through clothes, so we changed.
Bounced while I took a shower.
He seemed to want a bottle around 9:30 but was very fussy and shrieked. After being rocked, he went down for a nap around 9:45.
Woke up around 10:40. Finished bottle. Wet diaper.
11:19 AM: Playing in living room, read three books. Then to the exer-saucer as I did the dishes and boiled clean his bottles.
12:30 – 12:54 PM Tried to feed him a bottle of breast milk; he was ok for the first bit, then spit up most of it, then was fussy and screaming, but finally settled down, drank 2 ounces then conked out.
1:22 PM He awoke. Finished bottle by 1:40.
Nap/new bottle between 3 to 5.
Kimi home at 5, took Sammy then fed him at 6:30.
Bath at 7pm.
Fed him again 7:30 (snack)
Bed at 7:45.
Fed him again 8:10.
That’s quite a day. Kimi gets home around 5 or 5:30 or 6, and she usually misses him so much that she spends most of the evening being the primary caregiver. Certainly gives me new appreciation for what she went through.
Things are quite a bit better at night now that we’ve begun Ferberizing (more on that in a later post). I expect to talk more about Sammy and the paternity leave in future posts.